Boundaries - Episode 1 - What are boundaries 👀?

Are your boundaries porous? That's not good...

Hello, Noodles!

After having it sitting on my desk for more than two years, I finally read “Set Boundaries, Find Peace”, an enlightening book by

Nedra Glover Tawwab

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This book is actually the reason why I wanted to start this newsletter. I knew I would learn a lot by reading it, but my ADHD brain kept pushing back… 👀 So I thought, why not read it and make doodles about it to share with people who are curious about boundaries too? Apparently, setting this clear, practical goal made my brain go from “no way” to “oh yeah”!

Anyway, let’s get back to the book. In a very simple and clear way, Tawwab explains what boundaries are, how they are essential to any healthy relationship, and how to set them up to "reclaim yourself"(I love this idea!).

Let me share with you what I learned while reading it.

First, it’s important to understand what boundaries are. Tawwab defines boundaries as "expectations and needs that help you feel safe and comfortable in your relationships."

Implementing healthy boundaries is important for feeling balanced within your relationships.

Generally, boundaries are essential wherever we have relationships with people. But the author explains that we also should learn to set boundaries with our technological devices.

Different types of relationships and interactions with others require different types of boundaries. Identifying these boundaries is crucial to help us notice when they are being violated.

Boundaries are necessary, but not all boundaries are helpful. Some are healthy and make you feel better, but others can be too porous or too rigid.

Lacking healthy boundaries with others in your life will have a detrimental impact on your mind and body, whether you are conscious of it or not.

That’s it for today!

Do you have porous or rigid boundaries in your life? Do you recognize the signs that you might need to set healthy boundaries with the people around you? Let’s chat about it in the comments 😊!

In the next episode, we’ll see the do's and don’ts of setting boundaries correctly (and yes, this might include a pickle analogy 🥒. I know it’s not a pickle emoji, but can you believe we don’t have a pickle emoji yet😥?). So stay tuned!