I totally get this...but...the issue is, even if they do 'accept' my needs, I won't really believe that they do, and think they're just being polite - or even that they're relieved they got out of hanging out with me...(Like "Oh.... If they'd meant it, they might have suggested chilling and watching a movie or something instead of shopping. They mustn't like me. Oh well ...guess I shouldn't bug them anymore..." (and then of course I won't suggest hanging out like that instead because I think they don't like me so they won't want to and I don't want to force them to be polite and do it anyway...)) 🤷♂️ A never-ending spiral of RSD/low-self-esteem....
Hi Martin! Yes I completely get that, it's a very common reaction among people with ADHD 😔 I'll see if I can find a book to explore soon that could help us with this RSD spiral 🙌
The issue with me specifically is that I tend to overthink it too much. Even if I do tell them about it, either they act really passive-aggressive or just straight aggression. When they do act nice and understanding all I think is that they’re lying to be nice. How do I stop that?? The mindset has been crumbling me in many situations..
That's a very good question Celina! I'm not sure yet how you could change your mindset around this issue but I hope I'll find a few solutions in the next books I'll cover 🙏💕
I once communicated my needs to a “friend” and she started calling me names
Now I got someone who totally respects them and she’s just like me
I'm sorry you when through this Peter 😳! Definitely not a good friend 🤨! But I'm glad you found someone that respects your needs now 🤗!!
I totally get this...but...the issue is, even if they do 'accept' my needs, I won't really believe that they do, and think they're just being polite - or even that they're relieved they got out of hanging out with me...(Like "Oh.... If they'd meant it, they might have suggested chilling and watching a movie or something instead of shopping. They mustn't like me. Oh well ...guess I shouldn't bug them anymore..." (and then of course I won't suggest hanging out like that instead because I think they don't like me so they won't want to and I don't want to force them to be polite and do it anyway...)) 🤷♂️ A never-ending spiral of RSD/low-self-esteem....
Hi Martin! Yes I completely get that, it's a very common reaction among people with ADHD 😔 I'll see if I can find a book to explore soon that could help us with this RSD spiral 🙌
That's super kind of you to think of looking for a book! I mean, I know it might help you too, but still....! 😊 Thank you.
I'm here to help 🫡☺️💕!!
Thank you. (now excuse me while I go and cry....lol/not-lol)🥹
I’m a teacher in junior high- could I print off some of your pictures to post in my classroom? I think they’d really help my students.
Yes of course Katie 😊💕!!
The issue with me specifically is that I tend to overthink it too much. Even if I do tell them about it, either they act really passive-aggressive or just straight aggression. When they do act nice and understanding all I think is that they’re lying to be nice. How do I stop that?? The mindset has been crumbling me in many situations..
That's a very good question Celina! I'm not sure yet how you could change your mindset around this issue but I hope I'll find a few solutions in the next books I'll cover 🙏💕
Thanks 😊❤️